Kindness Isn’t Weakness… It’s Power

I was on a coaching call yesterday and found myself saying something I’ve had to relearn many times: Kindness is often mistaken for weakness.

I've been there...Mocked for the hugs, arm pats, "I love yous" and Cassy hands. 

And in her case, I could see it happening, too.

Why is it that in business or professional spaces, kindness gets treated like an invitation for manipulation or scrutiny?

Do we trade authority when we lead with kindness? 

Absolutely not. 

Leadership shouldn't be driven by fear. 

Collaboration shouldn’t require fore. 

And success shouldn't be measured by how well we strip away of authenticity, grace, or poise. 

To me, all of those things are the backbone of kindness.

So if you're in a space, or even a relationship, where your kindness is being mistaken for weakness, I'd like to tell you what I told her: Love 'Em Down™. 

(Also the title of one of my most favorite chapters in Unapologetic.)

Show up again and again with the same fierce kindness they underestimated in the first place.

Leadership is not your title. 

Leadership is not a trade you make in exchange for love, kindness, or grace. 

Leadership fueled by love only requires the same respect, patience, and compassion we'd want to shown us…or someone in our corner.

It's as simple as what we tell our kids, "treat people the way you want to be treated." And as complex as accepting that not everyone will see the beauty in that.

And that's ok. 

Do it anyway. 

Because your leadership won’t be defined by that moment…but by everything you choose to do after it.

So choose kindness. Choose love. And be nothing but yourself.

Big hugs & love,

Cassy

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