What we cancel, we need the most

December is upon us and it might just be the busiest, joy-filled, magical, chaotic, stressful month of the year.

And yes, I know that all of those words totally contradict each other. That’s the whole point. 

I leave for Dallas tomorrow, but made the wild decision to venture back home to Alabama this past weekend to see my people. Although I missed many, I did get to squeeze some…and I’m so glad I did.

I think many of you know that we moved back north in March of this year and although I intended to come back often, I blinked and suddenly it was the first week of December. 

How does time move so fast? 

Dad, you were right. About a lot. 

There was never going to be a “good weekend” to visit. 

Work didn’t slow down.

The chaos of Christmas, kids, and EOY madness wasn’t going anywhere.

But I packed up my happy you-know-what and went anyway.

Hallie and I made the trek and even though it was quick, we went. 

The time with family, friends, and previous co-workers turned lifers may have been brief, but it was exactly what the doctor ordered.

We laughed, cried, danced, hugged, and reminisced. 

We dreamed, we mourned, and we talked through the heavy that was, for many, 2025. 

I drove back into below freezing temperatures whiplashed from a southern warm blast to the frozen death tundra…but I’m so glad I did. 

If you’ve read Unapologetic, you have to know that the chapter called Time & Jimbo is one of the most important to me. It's our reminder that time isn’t slowing down. We aren’t getting any younger. And none of us are guaranteed tomorrow. 

So why do we show up for the things that are strenuous, draining, stressful, or dreaded…yet we’re so quick to cancel the things we need the most? 

Coffee with a friend.

Girls’ night.

A date with our spouse.

Time with our parents. 

These are the first things we dismiss. The easiest to reschedule. The quickest to cancel… “because they’ll understand.”

But y’all, I’m telling you—don’t.

Life is hard, it always will be, so choose your hard. 

Choose the people, places, and moments that fill your cup.

Put the coffee date on the calendar.
Block the time with your spouse.
Text the friend you’ve been meaning to see.

And treat those appointments just like you would a meeting with a hot lead or your leadership.

As we close another year, let this be your reminder:

Make the time. Not someday. Now.

You can thank me later!

& be nothing but yourself.

Big hugs & love,

Cassy

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