Ask for Dang Help.
This week, while talking to a friend, I said something that stuck with us all week:
Sometimes we have to get over feeling bad so that we can actually feel good again.
As soon as I said it we were like “Oh, that’s good…” (sidebar: find these friends y’all, they’ll change your life).
It was so impactful, it became a big part of our coaching call during Office Hours with the Tribe this week.
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Back to our regularly scheduled programming…
I asked the whole group who has a hard time asking for help…Everyone I could see raised their hand.
I went on to ask, “Who feels bad asking for help?”
Again, everyone I could see raised their hand.
Now you might be thinking, “Cassy, aren’t those the same things?”
No.
Some people don’t ask because they don’t know where to go. Others know exactly who to ask… but guilt keeps them quiet.
So I gave the group an exercise I want to share with you:
Write: “I need help with ______.” (Personally or professionally)
Then write: “I will ask ______ for help with ______.”
Then write: “I will ask by ______.” (Pick a date within 7 days.)
Simple? Yes.
So why are so many of us still struggling with it?
Because asking requires intentionality.
And execution.
And belief that you are not meant to do this alone.
This last week was weighted by stories of loss. Stories of people feeling alone. Stories that make you wonder how someone could carry so much without reaching out.
And it lit a fire in me reminding me why this movement matters so much.
Not just for women in our season of life. Not just for high achievers who secretly feel overwhelmed. But for the next generation watching us.
They are learning from how we handle hard. They are learning whether strength means silence… or support.
You’ve heard me say it many times… It takes a village. It takes a tribe. It takes people who love you to rally around you and remind you when you’ve forgotten.
My mission isn’t just to build a women’s community.
It’s to build humans who believe they are needed here.
That God put them here for a purpose, and not a little one.
And that starts with us modeling it first.
Find your people. Get rooted in your why. Ask for dang help.
Because sometimes getting over feeling bad is the first step to feeling good again.
You’ve got homework. I hope you do it.
Big hugs & so much love,
Cassy
If this message stirred something deeper for you and you’re struggling more than you’ve been letting on, please don’t carry that alone. My inbox is always open. And if you need immediate support, you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline in the U.S. They are available 24/7. You are needed here.
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