“Like…butts?!”

Bedtime conversations have taken quite the turn recently…I read once that it’s when kids feel the safest to “share” and every time Hallie says something completely random or from left field, I remind myself of this. Last night was no exception…

We sang our songs, said our prayer, and for the umpteenth time I was chosen for eenie-meenie-minie-moe as the one to stay with her and during these last few moments of the day with her I can see her mind run free…

After a few exchanges, Hallie randomly and proudly says, “Ms. K says, “No buts!”…what does “buts” mean? Like butts?!” And she bursts out laughing covering her mouth like she’s just said the unspeakable  

It’s hard not to laugh alongside her when she cracks herself up, but it was also a good opportunity to explain the difference.

We talked about how “buts” in this case meant her teacher wanted her to know that there was no room for the usual…whining, excuses, complaining, or blaming. The stories we use to avoid discomfort or responsibility.

“No buts!”

I can only imagine the need to share this with a class full of headstrong 4 and 5 year olds, but I also had to reflect on all the “buts” in our own lives.

How often do we use “but” to water down accountability?
To defend ourselves before we’ve even self-assessed?
To justify staying exactly where we are?

What if during the next conversation, moment, or conflict we faced, someone looked us right in the face and said, “No buts!”?

Not out of spite or ill-intention, but truly to set the precedent that the “buts” weren’t welcome.

Can you imagine? 

We live in a world where we want things faster, easier, cheaper…that list goes on. And yet, our ability to face adversity, solve problems, handle conflict, and overcome objections is at an all-time low.

What conversation, responsibility, or action have you been buffering with a “but”?

Where can you cut the “but” today? 


I’m not sure about you, but I know I’ve got a lot of opportunities here. 

I’m taking the advice of one of the best teachers I know today and I’m going with “No buts!” and I hope you do too.

Big hugs & so much love,

Cassy

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